Love & Care..My concept of Parenting

We are all humans and its human to love each other. Even the most grueling of the people like Hitler had a romance. Love is of many types as we all know...no matter what the love, it ends up in care for each other or may be care only to one side. Friendship is one such form of love and it also does involve care.

I have in my experience learnt that love is something that should never be expected of, but given. I know how difficult it is to think like that. But thats how world will move ahead. The whole world i think is now missing it and we need it badly. Nobody has time for each other in life. Its not that difficult to talk to someone when you have time, but its when you find time for someone even when you are damn busy, it will show that you care.

Out of all the love in the world, i believe the most important is the love a child gets from the parents. It has the power to make or break a child. A child when born on earth is pure and has no thoughts in his/her minds. Its his living atmosphere that builds the character in the child. A child born and brought up in a positive atmosphere will always learn think to positive in life. No matter what the problem he faces. What a child requires until he can earn by himself is financial and emotional support of the parents. But once he is ready to be on his own, the parent should let him live on his own terms...bcoz now he is someone who has his own tastes and thinking. Trying to force thoughts into him will turn out to be disastrous. This is the time when the child needs moral support to chase his dreams. He should be like a kite at this time. Every time he tries to climb, we should loosen the thread for him and guide him properly to reach greater heights. And once he has a family of his own, then he should be let free to fly for himself. Its not some one who says "Dont climb, its dangerous!!!" that a child wants, but someone who says "Go ahead buddy, climb, i will catch u if u fall".

Parents always do fear that if the child is let free, then they may get spoiled. But it doesn't happen to all children...did any parent think why??. This bcoz of the way the child is groomed when they are young. Children have the ability to understand whats good and bad, and if properly guided, will not make mistakes no matter what the amount of freedom we give them. Its a delicate balancing feat for the parents...its tough, but not impossible. Upto an age in a child's life, the parents should be the eyes and ears for them. But after certain age, say around 21 or 22, the parents should learn to see and hear the problems through their child's eyes and ears and then 'propose' a solution. In this way the child will not feel that he is being dominated, but will listen to what the parents have to say. There is a saying which says - "Call your son 'Mr.' when he reaches your level". In this way, the children will learn to respect their parents.

Upto a certain age, children listen to their parents bcoz of fear. But after a certain time, they can be controlled only by giving them the love and respect that they need. Children become rebels bcoz, this time of transition is not recognized by the parents. And they should give their wards as much love as possible. Love should never be measured with the money thats being given. Try to get their needs done, if it cannot be done, then make them understand the reason for it without making them feel that they are being denied the need. A good amount of problems will be resolved if the children are being handled in this way.


I have lots more to learn in life and I sincerely hope that if i become a parent one day, then i will be able to put these things to practice. I knw...its easy to say, but not that easy to do...But remember, "It could be difficult, but its not impossible".

Its me for you...

Hello all,

I am sreekanth here :). Today i have decided to write a blog on myself and what i feel about life as such. You are always welcome to share your comments on my posts :). I am an open minded guy.

Well, let me start off by saying about myself for u. I am a guy with dreams. I dream a lot and sometimes i don't dream at all. I would like to be really rich...really damn rich. And i will do any legal thing to get there. I am a great fan of business. But there are lots of hardships in getting that to success. It isn't easy at all. But u knw...sometimes in life...u have to take risks...or else what life man? :). I am a guy who thinks that you have to act 20 when u are 20 and 40 when u are 40. But unfortunately...it seems that i am not that type and that's the funniest part :D. I usually think and handle things like a guy who is 5 or 6 years older than me. The good part of this is that i will handle things more matured way...but the bad part is sometimes you get frustrated when people don't listen to you bcoz u are talking what u are not supposed to talk for your age. This sometimes even ends up in fights between elders and me :D.

I respect people by what they are to me. I seriously wont care much if that person is rude to someone else. Thats his problem not mine :D. And this attitude has helped me to make friends with people very easily and this has also helped me a lot in not saying gossips about people. I hate people who say gossips!. Its my policy in life to live and let live. If someone has a problem then its their problem until and unless they ask me to help them. May be bcoz of this i am also able to maintain healthy relation with people ;). But u knw obviously, you cannot satisfy all the people all the time :). But i think i have no enemies :D.

Now lemme say something about my friends :). Hmmm.. my friends circle is very small to be frank :). I have say may be 10 or 11 friends who are close to me :). Close means who i really care for :). For whom i would do anything in my powers to keep them happy :). Very rarely does someone come into that close circle. And when i meet the person i knw whether he will reach there or not. I always preffer to keep friendship with people who are in my wave length of thought. If at anytime i feel that they no longer belong there, then they will be out for sure. So that's about my friends.

And yes...forgot something very very important :). I am a really really romantic guy ;). Very very romantic :). If you ask me whether i have been in love, well i will say 'yes i have' :). After all who hasn't? at least in their dreams? :). So i have also been in love :). I have had infatuations too, but true love; only once...just once and i enjoyed every moment of it, until one day i had to drop it...ya...like may be everyone else, i also dropped it :D. Excuses for dropping it are well, are not mine. And i wont say its her fault too :). We both just chose which was best for both of us.. :). But she will always have a position in my heart that no one else can take :). So my instruction to all those who wanna fall in love, don't go for it until you are say 26 or 27 when it comes to boys and 22 or 23 for girls :D...bcoz if u are really in love, then don't wait, just go ahead and get him/her :).

Well, now thats a taste of the real me for u :). If u wanna know more, just keep following my posts and you will know in time.... :).